LOVE YOUR-SELF

Attachments dictate that we must find happiness from the things around us. Our societies, parents, schools teach us that external things will make you happy. So this is where you try and get your happiness from. You believe your car, your career, food, drink, another person will make you happy. However, none of these things can make you happy at all. Your car has no power over you, it doesn't decide to make you happy, only you do. You decide whether that car makes you happy or not. Food has no power over you, it decide to make you happy, only you decide if food makes you happy or not.

Attachments delude us into thinking that the outside world has power, has the power to make us happy. But only You have the power to make ourselves happy! You always do. Taking an extreme example, if something catastrophic happens, it is still You that decides whether you will be unhappy or happy as you react to that situation. There is no one outside that tells you how to feel. even if they do, it is ultimately you that decides whether you want to listen to them or not! That is your power. It is the power over your own life, no one else has this power.

When we source our love from within then the outside world becomes something less that we need and more that we can appreciate. For example, if we believe that being with another person will make us happy then we are deluding ourselves into believing that our partner has power over us. They dictate our happiness. We then become weaker and needy as we depend upon this partner to make us happy. What happens when we take this partner away? We immediately become unhappy and don't know what to do. The trouble with attachments is that we are never completely happy because we are always unstable, relying upon that externality to keep us happy causes enough stress! We are constantly on the lookout in case it changes, we are needy. We are unstable, we are insecure. We attempt to control everything in our lives. When we source that happiness from within, that power, we are loving ourselves. We then appreciate others for who they are not what they can give us. This is true love.

When we appreciate who we are then we also appreciate others. We are constantly looking at the world through a kaleidoscope - a distorted view of the world based on our opinions, judgments, thoughts, feelings - all filtering what we see. For example, if we harbour an insecurity that others are more confident than us then we are telling ourselves that other people are better than us, therefore "I must be inferior in some to others". Here, you are not loving a part of yourself . You are not loving the part of yourself that you think is shy or not confident. As you meet others you will have this insecurity within you, it will cloud your vision. When you speak to others, you will immediately feel less than them and this can make you angry, jealous, insecure - basically you are not able to love another person because you are also comparing yourself with them.  True love does not judge another being, for it knows that within we are all equal. When we harbour love within, we can truly express that love to others. The truth is everything we need is within. Whenever you look at another person and feel jealousy, angry or envy, remember that these feelings emerge because you still do not love all parts of yourself. All negative emotions emerge because we do not harbour unconditional love for ourselves.

When we love all parts of our Self, we are doing many things. We heal the parts of ourselves in pain that desperately want Love! By doing so, we become wiser and ultimately happier. Also, we are able to understand more of who we are and what we want. We begin to respect ourselves and thus we allow ourselves to do things that we desire and feel that we are worth doing. So much of the time, we refrain from fulfilling anywhere near our potential because we simply do not allow ourselves to - we don't believe in ourselves, we have allowed the conditioning of the Whole to affect us. As well as this, we are also able to love others in a much truer way, understanding who they are.

(for further insight see Attachments - Coming Soon)